by Olufunmilayo

Jamiu felt so stupid, and this wasn’t fair. He needed answers and no one had been able to provide him with the answers. He did not know where to turn to. He didn’t know who to trust. Surely, he did not deserve this. Also, because of the sensitivity of the matter, he did not want to tell his parents or his close relatives. But he needed answers quickly. He was still shocked at himself and wondered why he had turned to Nairaland for answers. Yes, people were savage on the platform, but he felt he could get at least a word of wisdom or two from a few serious-minded people. What he had not expected was the barrage of insults. Everyone told him he was a fool, some called him a simp. He re-read the post he had put on Nairaland again which had made the front page:

Here’s what my GF told me – should I believe her?  By Jaybomb: 1:20 am

Dear Nairalanders,

I need some serious advice. I have known my Girlfriend since my childhood while growing up in Kogi. We grew up in the same neighborhood. Our parents and everyone were happy that we will be getting married. We were already engaged and preparing to get married before the census next year. Honestly, my GF is a very good girl. With a kind heart and very loving. I have never had any reason to doubt her. Three months ago, she told me she was going to spend some time with her aunty in Ibadan. Then she came back last week, and I noticed that she looked a bit plumper. All week she had been ill and I followed her to the hospital – only to find that she was pregnant. We have never been together sexually, and she said she did not cheat on me. She said an angel had told her she will conceive, and she just found out that she was pregnant. Honestly, my babe sounded so serious – and she’s a responsible girl. But what she is saying does not make any sense to me at all. I don’t even mind if I have to father the child, but I need her to tell me the truth.

Could she be telling the truth? I’m thinking of letting her go…. But she was crying throughout yesterday and swore that she was telling me the truth. Honestly, I’ve not been myself, I don’t know what to do. I love her so much, but this is all so confusing to me… Any advice, please?


Re: Here’s what my GF told me – should I believe her?  By Shankothesexyguy: 1:21 am

Abeg, free the woman joor – this bi$$ches aint fateful  – happy to announce I’m FTC

Re: Here’s what my GF told me – should I believe her?  By Hardcore: 1:25 am

You min to say anoda man chopped your pomo, before you – you be mumu man!! Pray for sense from the gods

Re: Here’s what my GF told me – should I believe her?  By Libido007: 1:28 am

Simp – all you vegin men out their – I hope you have leant from tis😊😊😊 you deserve it…

Re: Here’s what my GF told me – should I believe her?  By JesusisLord: 1:32 am

Maybe you should call your pastor and both of you should sit down and address this – this is a very sensitive matter – God help you ooo – but if it is me, I cannot believe she is not lying. Scientifically it is not possible too. I’m just saying.

By now, I know you understand the gist of the story. The anecdote above is my weak attempt at thinking through what Joseph might have gone through with Mary in today’s context. Surely, it must have been a tough time and decision for him to make.

Matthew 1: 19 – 20: And her husband Joseph, being a just man and unwilling to put her to shame, resolved to divorce her quietly. But as he considered these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream, saying, “Joseph, son of David, do not fear to take Mary as your wife, for that which is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit.”

It’s hard for the human mind to believe the account of the birth of Jesus except by faith, and believe it or not, many issues today are hard to comprehend or understand. We need to ask ourselves when hard issues hit us, what is our first instinct? A lot of times, life throws curve balls at us. There are legitimate reasons why we should disgrace people for what they have done to us. We feel the need to be justified and get affirmation from family, friends, neighbors, wise elders, etc. However, I think there a few things we can learn from Joseph in this passage. He did not seek to disgrace Mary; rather, he sought to let her go quietly. He did not begin asking hypothetical questions from friends or calling his pastor up, or googling what to do about a cheating girlfriend, or asking anonymous questions on Nairaland. Rather, it appears like he was in a state of rest, as he kept thinking over the issue. We see that, indeed, he slept. How many of us can find a place of rest to sleep when difficult situations hit us? How many of us can be quiet within our spirits and listen till we hear the voice of God before taking action or running helter-skelter looking for answers?

1 John 2: 27: But you have received the Holy Spirit, and he lives within you, so you don’t need anyone to teach you what is true. For the Spirit teaches you everything you need to know, and what he teaches is true—it is not a lie. So just as he has taught you, remain in fellowship with Christ.

This passage in John shows us that, for as many as have received the Holy Spirit, all the truth we need to navigate this life, resides within us. The Holy Spirit is our teacher, and our response to life issues is to remain in fellowship with Christ. That is how we connect to the answers we need.

If we see that this is a place of rest and can quiet our spirit, oh, what many things God is happy to tell us about life situations.

My dear friends, Rest…till you hear His voice!




4 Replies to “Rest

  1. God bless you ma.
    Well written.
    Resting in the Lord comes easy when we fix our gaze on Him and not detractors.

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