Dear Asake,

I remember our long walks in the past. Days when being with you seemed unending. Nights when waiting for you seemed like a hopeless choice. But I stuck with you. I believed you will see the light as God graciously reveals them by and by. My patience was tried but I waited. I spoke of the outward reflection of your inner experiences. I advised that your true confessions are not only matters of the heart but a life to be seen. It must show in your dressing, speeches and conducts. We shall know them by their fruits, He says.

You resisted.

You felt your heart was all that matters. You would tell me how many religious laden Christians are under the muggy weight of legalistic righteousness. Their ear-rings have gone but their minds are still darkened. Their expensive clothes have been exchanged by cheap and clumsy sartorial choices, but their lives have not been freed from arrogance and unfriendliness. The more righteous they erroneously claim to have become (by what they now do and don’t do), the more difficult they are to walk with. I listened to you but drew the line of difference. Many might get it wrong but your personal testimony remains yours and no one else’s. Yes, some do trim their facades to fit into our religious biases and still keep rotting in sheer hypocrisy and self-righteousness, but that shouldn’t be an absolute truth.

Somehow, it sunk in.

I could see the burst of life that exuded from your bosom. I could see moderation in all you did as the Holy Spirit helped you. Your cleavages which were once a public attraction became a private treasure to be kept. Your foul languages which were often an expression of your impatient and choleric tendencies somewhat appeared to have given way for a much quieter spirit. But it seemed they were all religion because now you have become impatient with people who have not fitted into your religious definitions. You latch on what people are not doing right as though that is the foundation for righteousness.

While I was quick to point you to a life that must agree with your heart, I did not prioritize what you did ahead of whom you were. Preaching appearances before showing Christ is an invitation to a life of religion. And all that religion shows, before meeting Jesus, is struggles, confusion, heartaches and bondage. Before you tell anyone to stop lying, stealing, and all that the old man gratifies, you must have presented this beyond a moral thought. It must be a reflection of Christ likeness. And while we must not be patient with rooting out sins in people’s lives after meeting Christ, we must be patient with their weaknesses.

Growth is what it is – growth! It takes time. It takes processes. It is hard to sit over a life over the same matter for a while and not give way to weariness and irritation. Jesus expressed the same frustration to his disciples when he retorted, “Are you still so dull?” Emphasis is on ‘still’ not ‘dull’. The longevity in life being formed in a man must be met by a response that suggests hope, faith and an inspired spirit not to give up on such a person. This is what I call you to as I write. Remember how you started. Meet every erring one with that humbled past and a hope of change tempered by love in your belief for their better future.

For in the end, the life you pray more for develops than the one sedated with heavy doses of corrections.

14 Replies to “Patience…

  1. Asake needs to be more compassionate about the erring ones.
    A deep-seated love for those that stray so far that they may see the Father’s love and embrace it.
    Thank you.

  2. Dear Asake,

    “This will continue until we all come to such unity in our faith and knowledge of God’s Son that we will be mature in the Lord, measuring up to the full and complete standard of Christ”. Ephesians 4:13.

    “For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died. And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again”. 2 Corinthians 5:14-15 (NIV)

      1. Praying often for those we correct build some patience into us. I don’t know how it happens, but we come to see the Father’s love for them despite their weaknesses. And though we keep being firm in correcting them, we learn patience..
        For even we are still not where we should be, yet He is patient with us.

        Asake, keep praying for the person you correct. It will help you to be more patient.

        It seems that praying for others has an effect on US. Right?

        1. Interesting. I wasn’t even thinking of that, but it is so true.
          I have come to realise that intercessory prayers often bring us to a place of personal growth too. While we were focused on others, in prayers, our own capacity for the expression of the fruits of the Spirit is enlarged. Looking back at some pivotal moments in my life now, and it all makes sense.
          Thank you for that intervention.
          You should think about writing here someday soon to be a blessing to us all!

  3. Apt and lucidly expressed!
    Asake! Patience in prayer can melt an iron in the core of an iceberg.

    This REALLY Blessed me brother.
    Thank you!

  4. At the centre of the heart of a good parent is maturity and one of the key components of it is patient -patient with the one(s) we are parenting. We watch their mistakes, while in hope and gentleness of mind and hands guiding them into ‘perfection’.

    However, one major mistakes many of us make is to view others in our own lens. ‘When I was his age (like him/her) I never did that or I did that better.’ We are different and God’s working on each of us is unique and peculiar. Also, in contrasting others with ourselves, we often overestimate our past by intentionally or unintentionally play down our shortcomings. By doing so, out of overzealousness we leave behind the truth of who we were and not telling completely the story of our own growth.

    Patient is key to discipleship and to parenting. If not so, we will kill or damage those given to our care. It is true that love wants them to be like us in a day. But true growth isn’t like that. It takes days and for some, it could be years. Patient brings maturity to love and it is a firm balance to it.

    By mounting pressure in the name of parenting or discipleship on others we put ourselves in the place of God, as if we can build up by our own strength. However, we will achieve more if we can take back seat and allow God to do His work. At best we can counsel and pray for them. Where these two have been combined with love and patient, the results have been awesome.

    Bro Seun, thank you for this piece. God bless you sir.

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